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#Leadership: Hesitating to Accept Help? 5 Great Reasons to Get Over It…Smart Managers/Entrepreneurs Know Why Going it Alone is a Surprisingly Stupid Move

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What should you do when someone offers assistance or support for you new business, product, or other project? If at all possible, you should always say yes.

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This may be counter-intuitive. Turning down an offer of help might make you feel proud and self-sufficient. You might also feel reluctant to accept help for fear of inconveniencing the person who offered it. You may even want to save the help for a later time when you might need it more.

Wrong, wrong, wrong. Saying yes to an offer of help is almost always better than saying no. Here’s why:

1. You don’t know what the offer means to the person making it.

I learned this the hard way a few months back. I was overseeing a series of events at a local bookstore. Because I had my own mailing list and was accustomed to doing my own publicity, I consistently turned down offers of publicity help from the bookstore. Accepting would have meant changing my planning schedule, and besides, the person doing the publicity was a volunteer and I didn’t want to add to her workload.

It was a truly boneheaded move. Instead of being grateful that I’d saved her some work, the publicity person felt dissed that I was ignoring her efforts. She was also frustrated because she really wanted to let her audience know about the events I was producing. After this happened a few times, she got angry. By the time I recognized my mistake it was much too late to fix things.

Don’t let this happen to you. When someone offers to help you, you may have no idea what that offer means to them. Don’t assume that you do.

 

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2. Helping makes others feel good.

Think back to the last time you helped someone out. It felt terrific, didn’t it? To refuse an offer of help is to deprive someone of that same wonderful feeling. That’s a very unkind thing to do.

3. You may insult the helper.

Why would someone feel insulted that you turned down an offer of help? Because they may believe you feel their help has no value. That’s the message I inadvertently sent when I turned down the publicity offer from the bookstore. Don’t make the same mistake–if you simply can’t accept help for some reason, make sure to say how much you value and appreciate the offer.

4. Going it alone is a bad strategy.

Being an manager/entrepreneur, especially a solomanage/solopreneur, is a lonely business. You’re already likely to feel that you have to make every decision, complete every task, and be good at everything. Why on earth would you make that loneliness worse by refusing help when it comes along? Having someone support you, even if only with companionship or advice, will create a connection for you, for your business, and also for the person doing the helping. Being more connected is good for everyone. Don’t turn away those connections if you can possibly avoid it.

5. Someone who’s helped you once is likelier–not less likely–to do so again.

Some people believe that if they accept help now, it may not be available later when they really need it. And it may be true that someone with a limited sum to lend or invest can provide that money only once. But for other types of help the opposite is more likely to be true. That’s because people who’ve helped you once will feel invested in your business, even if all they gave you was advice. If your business succeeds, it will validate their choices and make them feel good about themselves. If it fails, it will make them feel like they’ve failed as well.

Since most people would prefer to be right than wrong, they’re likely to go the extra mile to prove that their decision to help was the correct one–if you’ve accepted that help and thus created a connection. So use that fact to you advantage by accepting help from as many different sources as you can. You’ll have that many more people in your corner if you need them later on.

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#Strategy: How to Deal with your Most Obnoxious #Coworkers…Fortunately, There are Some Steps you can Take to Deal with Even the Most Annoying of Coworkers

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If you have colleagues at work, there’s a very small chance you all get along swimmingly 100% of the time.  You’ll probably get annoyed with each and every one of them at some point — and there may even be a few who you absolutely can’t stand.

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Fortunately, there are some steps you can take deal with even the most annoying of coworkers, says workplace expert and author Lynn Taylor.

Here are 23 simple steps you can take:

1. Relate the problem to business.

If and when you approach your annoying coworker, it’s fine to blame that “deadline” you have or that “project” you’re working on.

Try something like: “Hey, I normally love that song too, but I actually need to finish something by the end of the day and it’s a little distracting. Do you mind turning it down?”

Just be sure not to make it personal, says Taylor. 

 

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2. Use “positive bookends.”

Start the conversation on a friendly and kind note, and end it that way, too. “Any issues you have should be in the middle,” she explains.

3. Be diplomatic.

“Be patient and gentle with your words; rehearse them if necessary.” 

4. Remain calm.

Be a role model of professionalism. “You want your approach to work, and you can’t keep badgering your office mate, so be strategic the first time,” Taylor says.

5. Have a cool-down period.

Give yourself time to objectively assess the situation. Don’t react in the moment, i.e., “Hey, can you turn that down!” or “Wow … what the heck are you eating?!”

6. Don’t fight fire with fire.

“Avoid a battle of the wits,” she says. “Don’t play your music louder or pound on your keyboard harder.” If you try and one up your office mates, you’ll both dread coming to work.

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7. Be direct and discreet.

Talk to your coworker privately and allow them dignity. Avoid spreading ill will. “Kindness goes a long way, and you’ll be working around this person for weeks, months or years,” Taylor says.

8. Anticipate.

“Know when the annoyances are most likely to happen and try work-arounds where possible,” she suggests. 

9. Set boundaries early.

Don’t be a martyr; speak up or things will worsen for you. Take action in some form or the issue will magnify, she says.

10. Don’t feel guilty.

You have the right to speak up without feeling remorseful later. If you’ve done your best to be polite and compassionate, you’re doing the right thing, Taylor says.

11. Address better work habits in a meeting.

“Try to solicit the help of Human Resources in getting input from the team on making the office more comfortable and productive,” Taylor suggests. “You want an ally. Take the broader issue into a group meeting. Bring up the need to be respectful to other workers and share the specific requests and input received. This way no one is pointing fingers.”

sad tired frustratedFlickr/jazbeckDon’t feel bad about addressing the situation.

12. Try to be understanding.

Be sensitive to the fact that people aren’t perfect. No one is immune to habits that can be annoying to others, she says.

13. Use humor.

This is a good opportunity to use humor to lessen the tension. “Some self-effacing humor can help you avoid appearing haughty,” she explains.

14. Stay positive.

“Try to stay upbeat, despite the insanity,” says Taylor. “You’re more likely to get cooperation.”

15. Compromise.

Figure out ways to meet your neighbor halfway, recommends Taylor. Offer to do your part to make the office experience more pleasant for them. 

16. Let them save face.

She says you should ty starting the conversation in a way that gives them an out, versus going on the defensive: “I’m sure this is really hard to notice, as I realize we’re all dealing with X right now, but I was wondering if we could work something out with [fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][the problem].” 

17. Use little reminders to stay cool.

“Consider using a desktop reminder, like a personal code word, that reminds you to take it less seriously,” Taylor says. “Try to look at the circumstances with some levity.” 

18. Don’t empower them.

Don’t allow anyone to steal your joy at work or take up valuable space in your day, she warns. Stay focused on your work, and once you’ve taken action, remember that you can take steps to make the environment more tolerable: use headsets, ask to be moved elsewhere in the office, etc.

19. Use refuge or quiet areas.

Approach your boss to establish quiet spaces and take advantage of refuge areas.

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20. Talk to someone outside of work.

It’s okay to vent with a friend or family, just make sure you’re away from the office. “Avoid the temptation to lament over the chaos with your colleagues, as word could spread, ruining your chances to resolve the issue properly,” Taylor says.

21. Take a walk.

Getting your circulation going will help your spirits and remove you from the sense of being in a virtual fishbowl of frustration.

22. Take a break.

Consider going to the break room or a public area for a few minutes, for a change of environment. “You’ll likely return with a fresher outlook and more relaxed,” she says. 

23. Set the example.

No one is the perfect office mate. Examine your own habits and solicit input on how you can be a better coworker when approaching others.

“Remember, it’s how you react to a challenge that really impacts your job, and maybe your career,” says Taylor. “Try your best to limit confrontation, maximize professionalism, and deploy defensive moves — what you do have control over. With a little humility, you’re likely to create a more acceptable and even pleasant work environment for everyone.”

Businessinsider.com | May 7, 2015 | 

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#Leadership: How To Handle A #PR Crisis…Think a Reputation-Destroying #Crisis will Never come Calling at your #Company? But in the Event that it Does, Are you Confident that you Could Handle It?

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Think a reputation-destroying crisis will never come calling at your company? But in the event that it does, are you confident that you could handle it? Like any other pressing business risk, a possible PR crisis should be approached with deliberate preparation and planning. That is the best way to cope with the day you hope will never come, argues Yago de la Cierva in his practical book on the subject. Responsible leadership should include crisis prevention, preparation and a calm, straightforward approach to communication in the event that a PR disaster must be weathered.

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The ABCs of Crisis Communication

Based on common-sense principles, crisis communication aims to minimize risk. De la Cierva highlights a series of action items that consider the person, the organization and society carefully. In times of crisis, key actions include:

Address perceptions. The gravity of a crisis is directly proportional to the public’s perception of it, rather than to what has actually happened on the ground.

Listen to the people who are complaining. It is very important to try to understand what is making people angry. Anger hinders communication, and the person you are addressing will not listen to your message until they have had their say.

Tune in emotionally. You need to know how to interpret the public’s mood. Communication should not be treated as an impersonal means for spreading ideas.

Reason from the point of view of those you represent. Make it clear that the company is defending the interests of the people it serves.

Distinguish between law and public opinion. You may be in the right, and yet be wrong. It’s best to have both legal advisers and communications experts on hand.

Always tell the truth. Honesty is essential to credibility. In times of crisis, one of the worst things you can do is lie.

Be accountable for your actions. Assume responsibility. That may mean fixing the problem, acknowledging the mistake or mistakes that were made and repairing whatever damage has been caused.

Be professional. Crisis communication officers must have a service-minded mentality. They need technical skills and the ability to formulate clear, inoffensive and unequivocal messages.

 

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Ready, Set, Crisis!

There are three parts to preparing for a crisis: foresight, prevention and provision. Foresight requires knowing a company’s internal and external context thoroughly enough to see crises coming and to perceive their likely consequences. Prevention means taking a proactive approach to avoid obvious crises. Provision requires creating an action plan.

Or, more plainly, a crisis plan: that is, a series of immediate measures to respond to each situation adequately. But how does communication fit into all of this?

The first step is to form a crisis management team to gather information, assign responsibilities and decide on the organization’s position regarding the crisis. The trick is to think before acting.

The crisis team’s tasks also include defining the problem, assessing whom it will affect and then deciding how the company should act. Members of the team should also, ideally, consider how the situation might evolve or play out.

Next, information should be collected systematically to create an understanding of each group that has been affected by the crisis. This data will also be used to form the company’s official response.

To communicate this response, choose a spokesperson adept at transmitting the corporate message to the various groups affected and to the media. The choice of spokesperson will depend on the nature of the crisis (technical or personal), its relevance, its location and how long it is expected to last.

Once the company’s message, spokesperson and next steps have been decided, communication channels also need to be chosen. These will normally be the same channels used for day-to-day communication; however, for rapid responses, priority should be given to interactive tools — namely, social media.

In addition, an overall plan encompassing all channels is needed. The company web site should serve as the backbone for all communications — including the intranet to keep employees informed. The media should be kept up-to-date via press conferences and email.

But the most important factor in all this is that the company takes the initiative in communication. It must transform itself into a trusted source, acting positively and creatively to control the dimensions of the problem and manage time. Updates should be made continuously and should anticipate people’s needs.

What Happens Next?

Each action plan should be measured and analyzed afterward. Even while the communications plan is still being executed, it’s necessary to analyze the press and social media landscape and monitor how well the plan is working. Once the crisis has passed, an overall assessment should be carried out, and a plan for the post-crisis period needs to be agreed upon.

Accounts of the crisis and analyses of them are highly valuable for the future. But in order for such learning to be useful, internal reforms need to be devised and implemented.

 

By IESE Insight, the knowledge portal of IESE Business School. For more visit http://www.ieseinsight.com/

 

 

Forbes.com | May 7, 2015 | IESE Business School 

#Strategy: 6 Ways To Confidently Say “I Don’t Know”….Senior Leaders Don’t need People Who Think they Know every Answer. They Want #Leaders Who can Ask the Right Questions & Find the Answers.

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The hardest three words to say aren’t I love you – they’re I don’t know. That’s the opinion of Stephen J. Dubner and Steven D. Levitt, authors of the behavioral economics bestseller Freakonomics. From my experience coaching executives, I have to say they’re on to something.

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I’ve seen even the most accomplished and seasoned leaders get tripped up when they’re confronted with a question they can’t answer – especially when the person asking is in a position of authority. This gets more fraught the higher you go in an organization. At some point you have to oversee a wider span of activities, and can’t be effective in your role if you have an execution-level view of every function. More often, you won’t have the answer.

Yet, leaders often prepare for an important meeting as if they’re cramming for an exam. They try to anticipate any question and have a prepared answer ready. They can make their direct reports crazy with requirements for pages of metrics and explanations. (Preparation for board meetings can be a particular bit of fun.)

Our propensity to always provide an answer starts young. In a study, kids and adults were given an unanswerable question. For example, after hearing a description of a family car ride, asking if the riders had lemonade, when that was never mentioned. When asked this irrelevant question, 75% of kids tried to provide an answer. Perhaps this is the result of conditioning, as students are encouraged to try to answer a teacher’s question no matter if they know the answer or not.

 

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The researcher, Amanda Waterman, development psychology researcher at the University of Leeds, provides this perspective: “There’s a power differential between a child and an adult who’s asking them a question. And the child will feel that the adult is the person that has more of the power, and therefore perhaps they feel slightly disadvantaged. They feel like they want to show what they can do, and they don’t feel as comfortable admitting when they don’t know something.”

Looks like that conditioning runs deep. In the same study, 25% of adults tried to answer the unanswerable question as well. Note that the explanation above could just as likely describe a conversation between a boss and subordinate.

Certainly there are corporate cultures where not having an answer is career jeopardizing. But more often, we assume this to be the case when it’s not. Some neuroscientists believe that our need to know is actually linked to our brain function. When we have an answer, we get a hit of dopamine so we feel compelled to try.

I’ve conducted hundreds of feedback interviews with board members and senior leaders to gather information for my coaching clients. I’ve heard repeatedly that they want their leaders to show open mindedness, agility, courage, and presence. They want leaders who can deal with uncertainty and take risks. Having an answer for everything has only come up as a fault – discussed as a by-product of close-mindedness or parochialism.

In other words, senior leaders don’t need people who think they know every answer. They want leaders who can ask the right questions and find the answers.

Cultures suffer when leaders lack the courage to say I don’t know. Dubner and Levitt posit that if you have to be the expert and have the answer then you foster a culture that’s afraid to experiment. Without experimentation, there’s no innovation or risk. Further, being able to admit what you don’t know has been shown to increase trust. Just consider your own experience. If someone is selling you hard with an answer for everything, it shuts you down. If they can admit what they aren’t sure about, it’s an opening to a real conversation.

All this said, there are many ways to say I don’t know. The reaction you get is directly related to how you say it. You can come across as an absent-minded manager or a courageous innovator. Sometimes a simple, direct, “I don’t know” does the trick. At times, it can be helpful to have a few phrases at your fingertips that allow you to be transparent and remain centered. Here are a few other ways to say it that can help preserve your credibility, and even build it.

“I don’t know the answer to that, but I’m anxious to find out.”
“Let me tell you what I know, and what I’m still learning.”
“That’s an important question and I don’t want to give you a half answer. Let me get back to you on that by end of day.”
“I can’t tell you that with certainty. I do have an informed opinion on it which is…”
“Sarah on my team can get you the exact numbers on that. The performance metrics I’m managing show…”
“That’s an interesting question. Tell me more about what’s driving it?”
Kristi Hedges is a leadership coach, speaker and author of Power of Presence: Unlock Your Potential to Influence and Engage Others. Find her at kristihedges.com and @kristihedges.

 

Forbeswoman.com | May 4, 2015 | Kristi Hedges

 
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#Leadership:The Finding that Men are Pretending to Work 80-Hour Weeks says a Lot about Modern #Management….Research Suggests some Men are Only Pretending to Work that Much & the Fakers are Getting just as Much Praise from #Management as the True Workaholics

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Fields like finance and consulting are notorious for their life-sucking, 80-hour-plus workweeks. But new research suggests some men are only pretending to work that much — and the fakers are getting just as much praise from management as the true workaholics.

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Is he a workaholic or just faking it?

The study, conducted by Erin Reid, Ph.D., assistant professor of organization at Boston University’s Questrom School of Business, focused on employees at an anonymous global strategy consulting firm with a big presence in the US.

The company was known for being demanding of workers’ time. Employees told Reid that the firm expected them to be available for their work at all times and in all places. Reid reviewed performance evaluations, examined turnover data, and conducted interviews with many of the firm’s employees.

“Companies don’t seem to understand what constitutes high performance. “Expecting people to work all the time is not necessary for high-quality work and is problematic for most of the workforce,” Reid says.

Her findings showed that many men only pretended to be working all the time — when in fact, they were engaged in other activities, like spending time with family.

While 42% of the men that Reid interviewed actually were putting in 60- to 80-hour workweeks, 31% were only logging 50 to 60 hours a week but had figured out ways to deceive their managers into believing they were working more. About a quarter of men were working shorter hours and had revealed their reduced schedules to senior members of the firm.

By contrast, just 11% of the women that Reid interviewed faked longer workdays, and 44% disclosed to managers they were working fewer hours. Both men and women who revealed their reduced schedules were typically penalized with lower performance ratings or getting passed over for promotions.

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Reid suggested a few potential reasons why men were more likely than women to fake longer work hours. For one, the firm probably expected women — not men — to have trouble with work-family conflict. While it offered women more formal accommodations for part-time work or less frequent travel (and women took them), men were left to come up with more informal strategies for managing work and family commitments.

Furthermore, because they expected women to experience work-life conflict, managers may have been more vigilant about “policing” women’s time, making it easier for men to fly under the radar. 

dad with sonFlickr / Kevin DooleyMen struggle with work-family conflict, too.

Reid found there were a number of strategies men used to pretend they were working more. For example, some men cultivated local clients so they would be able to travel less. Others formed bonds with colleagues so that they could help each other fulfill their work responsibilities.

As a result, a senior manager named “Lloyd” (Reid used pseudonyms to protect the employees’ identities) was able to go skiing on a week when he was supposedly working remotely. “I took calls in the morning and in the evening, but I was able to be there for my son when he needed me to be, and I was able to ski five days in a row,” he told Reid.

Reid says this particular study focused on a single firm, so she can’t say for sure that the findings apply more generally. But when she spoke with consultants at other firms, she found they were also expected to be available to work all the time.

The findings are significant for several reasons.

First, it indicates that all workers — not just women — struggle with work-life conflict. The biggest gender difference is in how they deal with that conflict.

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The second important implication is that companies don’t seem to understand what constitutes high performance. “Expecting people to work all the time is not necessary for high-quality work and is problematic for most of the workforce,” Reid says.

Seemingly “ideal” employees like Lloyd, who pretended to work while they were really spending time with their families, still received praise and promotions. It seems as though firms still value the display of commitment above all else. The research also suggests that employees who log excessive hours don’t always produce better results than those who work less.

Yet, in a Harvard Business Review article, Reid writes that when she approached the firm’s leaders with her findings, they showed no desire to modify their expectations of long work hours. Instead, they said a man who reveals his lack of interest in being fully committed to his work is not the kind of employee they want. Moreover, they asked how they might teach women to pretend they were working more, too.

Still, Reid says she’s hopeful that organizations may soon realize that their demands are unrealistic — and change them. Her research, she says, is part of a “big conversation.”

Businessinsider.com | May 6, 2015 | 

http://www.businessinsider.com/men-pretending-to-be-working-2015-5#ixzz3ZNjH5o4C

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Your #Career: How Recent #Graduates Can Make More Money At Their First Jobs…Most Employers Surveyed told NerdWallet they Expected #Job Candidates to Ask for More Money and 75% of #Hiring Managers said They had Room to Increase their #Salary Offers by 5% to 10%.

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Long ago, when dinosaurs roamed the earth and I landed my first job out of college as an administrative assistant at Ralph Nader’s Public Citizen Litigation Group in Washington, D.C., it didn’t occur to me to try to ask for more money than the piddling $12,000 ($31,000 adjusted for inflation) the hiring manager was offering me. I was an Ivy League grad (Brown) but I had hardly any work experience, aside from a very brief stint volunteering on Dianne Feinstein’s San Francisco mayoral campaign, a project for the Rhode Island state courts and student jobs like chopping green peppers in Brown’s cafeteria kitchen. And the dingy offices (ripped mustard brown wall-to-wall carpet) underlined that this was a nonprofit where jobs didn’t pay well. But mainly, I was too naïve to consider that a salary negotiation was even a possibility.

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According to a survey released today by the personal finance website NerdWallet, new college graduates haven’t gotten any smarter about entry-level salaries than I was more than 30 years ago. NerdWallet surveyed 8,000 new grads who entered the job market between 2012 and 2015, in addition to 700 employers. Only a little over a third of new grads, 38%, said they had tried to negotiate their pay when they got their first offer.

The survey also showed that those who didn’t try were leaving money on the table. Most employers surveyed told NerdWallet they expected job candidates to ask for more money and three-quarters of hiring managers said they had room to increase their salary offers by 5% to 10%.

After you’ve been given a number, Gaglini suggests the following script: “That’s great news, thank you for the offer, you’ve made my day. I was just wondering if I could ask you a quick question. Might there be some flexibility in the starting salary?” If the employer asks how much more you want to make, again let him name the figure. Say, “I was wondering what you might be able to do.”

Why not try to get more money from that first offer? Like me, most students don’t realize they can, and they don’t know how to negotiate, says Boston College’s associate director of employer relations Louis Gaglini. He always counsels students to do lots of research on their potential job before they even go on their first interview, which should include extensive salary research on sites like Glassdoor, PayScale and Salary.com. Tim Luzader, who runs Purdue University’s career office, encourages his counselees to use LinkedIn to find Purdue alumni who have jobs at the students’ potential employers and to contact them for intelligence on starting salary ranges.

 

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Both Gaglini and Luzader advise students to ask for more money. Even if the offer is at the upper end of what the student has gleaned about starting salaries, it doesn’t hurt to try. But candidate should stick to the rule I’ve written in many other columns: Do not be the first to name a number. If the hiring manager asks you how much you want to make, say you’re thrilled about the job, that you’re sure you can reach an agreement on pay and that you want to make a competitive salary. Pay should be the last thing you negotiate once you have an offer.

After you’ve been given a number, Gaglini suggests the following script: “That’s great news, thank you for the offer, you’ve made my day. I was just wondering if I could ask you a quick question. Might there be some flexibility in the starting salary?” If the employer asks how much more you want to make, again let him name the figure. Say, “I was wondering what you might be able to do.”

If the answer to your initial question is “No,” Gaglini suggests trying to negotiate for other benefits, like a signing bonus or extra vacation days. I think it’s also a good idea to request a salary review within six months.

Luzader agrees with this approach, though he counsels students who’ve done their homework to be more assertive. For instance if the hiring manager offers $40,000, the candidate can say, “In working through the information in the Purdue career center, I learned that the range for this position is usually $42,000 to $46,000.” Says Luzader, “It’s OK to be specific if they’ve done their homework.”

What if the student has a competing offer? Gaglini says candidates should tread carefully. “It’s dangerous to share what another organization is offering and to use that as leverage at the entry level,” he says. “That can really damage your relationship with a potential employer.” Bosses just don’t expect that at the entry level, he says. But Luzader disagrees, at least in most cases. “They can say, ‘I have another offer, it’s also in Chicago, but there’s a $3,500 gap between what you’re offering and the other job.”

Both Gaglini and Luzader agree that it’s important to tread carefully and to listen closely to what the hiring manager says. In one instance Luzader had a student lose out on a job because he was too pushy and he insensitively used email to make demands. “His email looked more like a ransom note than a negotiation,” says Luzader. The email had five bullet points, including a salary demand. “It just sounded like this person was very entitled, almost like they were a free agent for a major league team.”

In the NerdWallet survey, 90% of hiring managers said they had never taken back an offer because an entry-level candidate had tried to negotiate and only 6% said that they were never willing to negotiate salary with new hires.
According to NerdWallet, “an employee who successfully asks for a 5% salary bump on a $40,000 job offer when she is 22, for instance, will make an extra $170,000 by the time she retires at 65.” That’s based on annual 3% salary growth. Though it’s safe to say that virtually no one getting hired out of college today will stay in the same job for 45 years. Still, if you make more money in your first job and leave after even a short time, the confidence a good salary instills will help you negotiate for more in your next job.

Sad to say, but not surprising, NerdWallet found that entry-level women were less likely to negotiate for more money from first job offers than men. Only 34% of women negotiated versus 44% of men. But there is a silver lining for women: when they did ask for a higher base salary, they had the same level of success, 80%, as men.

The takeaway: Do your research, try to ask for more money by posing questions like “Is there flexibility?” rather than making demands, and listen carefully to what the hiring manager says. But do try to negotiate a better salary offer in your first job.

 

Forbes.com | May 6, 2015 | Susan Adams

#Strategy: How to Cope with a Disorganized Boss…You Can Protect your #Career,& your Team, even IF your #Manager is Constantly Dropping Balls

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An ineffective boss might get fired. So might a bullying boss. A disorganized boss, however, can linger in an organization causing trouble for years. He can be perfectly nice, so no obvious alarm bells go off. The work gets done, but only because everyone reporting to him works around the clock before deadlines. “Having to deal with conflicting priorities can be extremely stressful,” says Richard Wellins, senior vice president of Development Dimensions International and coauthor of the new book Your First Leadership Job.

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Unfortunately, the modern workplace isn’t exactly helping managers on the organization front. Copious emails and changing conditions mean that “it’s much easier to become disorganized even if you’re not a disorganized person,” says Wellins. If you’re laboring under a disorganized boss, here’s how to make life better for yourself and your team.

OFFER TO HELP

Some disorganized bosses simply have too much on their plate, and haven’t yet mastered the skill of delegation. So ask to be delegated to. Wellins suggests saying, “I’d like to help you be successful. I see that as one of my roles. Are there things I can help you with, where I can add value to what you need to get done?”

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SCHEDULE REGULAR MEETINGS

In high-functioning situations, no one needs a meeting to report that she’s still doing her job. If you have a disorganized boss, though, “regular meetings can minimize chaos in the workplace,” says Wellins.

Michael Lee Stallard, a consultant, speaker, and author of the new book Connection Culture, suggests making these “W3” meetings: figuring out what, who, when. Take notes on these answers. “I’m a big believer in getting them in writing,” he says. “That brings clarity.”

ASK FOR EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED

If your boss is a bottleneck to your team achieving its goals on time, then don’t wait for information or approval to come to you. Go in with a list of exactly what you need. Try not to leave without getting it.

EMBRACE THE DIGEST FORMAT

One reason bosses get disorganized is that they have five teams cc-ing them on every email. Propose sending one daily email with the highlights. Even better? Reach an agreement with your boss’s other direct reports to do the same.

BE AN EXAMPLE OF ORGANIZATION

If your boss’s disorganization stems from stress, then “trying to step in and be a supportive confidant, as much as your boss will let you, will really help,” says Stallard. Your boss is probably not trying to drop balls, so being the ball that never gets dropped will help you become a trusted colleague. People also tend to reflect those around them, so being extremely organized yourself can set the tone.

HAVE BACKUP PLANS

In the workplace, as in chess, the masters think a few moves ahead. Your boss has given you a deadline. What would you do if he moved it? If you need some vital piece of information and your boss doesn’t come through, how else will you get it? “Sometimes you can work around the boss in ways that will help the boss,” says Stallard. It isn’t fair, but you can keep performing even without the support you want. Finding other trusted mentors in your organization is a wise move in general. A broad network gives you options.

CONSIDER DIRECT FEEDBACK

We all have weak spots, and your disorganized boss might be trying to improve. If you sense that this is the case, you can bring up what specifically would help you. If the situation seems hopeless, though, you may eventually need to enlist help from higher up. Company leaders generally do want to know when there’s a problem somewhere down the line. “If team members don’t communicate, there goes the company,” says Jenny Ta, CEO of Sqeeqee, a social commerce platform. So “don’t be afraid to knock on my door. If you’re afraid to knock on my door, write it on a slip of paper and slip it under my door.” That’s preferable to whole teams walking out the door because they can’t stand the stress.

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#Strategy: The Best Way to Get the Truth Out of a Job Candidate…The Single Most Important Thing you Could Do as an Organization is #Hire the Right People.

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Last week hedge fund manager Jason H. Karp explained during the Milken Institute’s Global Conference that his company’s personality assessment helps reveal positive and negative attributes in job candidates. He went on to say that the personality traits he looks for the most in traders and analysts are openness to change and grit (or resilience).

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“I would argue that the single most important thing you could do as an organization is hire the right people,” Frederick Morgeson, an organizational psychology expert and professor of management at Michigan State University, tells Business Insider. And a key way to do that, he argues, is by investing time, energy, and money into properly conducting personality assessments.

Morgeson says what’s truly unique and commendable about Karp’s tactic is his clear understanding of what he needs for the job and the company. This is the crucial first step to conducting personality assessments the right way.

Why do personality assessments matter?

The point of personality assessments, Morgeson says, is to get an idea of what traits someone possesses and what types of behaviors they engage in so you can assess how well they match up to the traits you believe are really important for success in the job and in the organization.

Questions like, “To what extent do you like trying new or different things?” and, “Tell me about a time when you had to try something new,” for example, would indicate a job candidate’s level of openness to new experiences and change.

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Morgeson points out that if a company hires someone who makes between $50,000 and $60,000 a year, over the course of a 20-year career, that’s at least a million-dollar investment in that person.

According to Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, a professor of business psychology at University College London and Columbia University and CEO of personality profiling company Hogan Assessment Systems, when tests are scientifically validated, they are better at predicting future performance than interviews, references, and résumés.

Here are the steps you need to take to get the most out of your own company’s personality assessments:

1. Understand your needs.

The first step to personality assessments is figuring out your company’s values, missions, and the needs for the job.

“If you don’t do the work as an organization to make sure that those traits that you’re trying to find in your candidates are in fact the right traits for your organization and for the jobs they’re doing, you’re going to have problems,” Morgeson says.

Businesses need to ask:

  1. What is is going to take to be successful in the job?
  2. What is it going to take to be successful in the organization?

Only once these ideal traits are clear can a business proceed to the next step of assessing candidates’ personalities and their fit.

 

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2. Pick an assessment.

There are thousands of different personality assessments available on the market today. One most people have heard of is the controversial Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test.

Karp said his company looks for openness to change, which is one of the “Big Five” personality traits, another common model for assessing potential new hires.

Collectively, these traits are often referred to with the acronym OCEAN, which stands for openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Even though Karp said that neuroticism could lead to what he calls a “nuisance hire” — someone that has potential, but could be a drain on the company — he admitted that he himself exhibits this trait.

Often people will exhibit a mixture of some of these personality traits, Morgeson says, but there are usually a few that stand out to assessors more than others.

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3. Beware of common mistakes.

Where companies often trip up, Morgeson explains, is not assessing these personality traits the right way.

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Assessors could potentially ask the wrong kinds of questions to discern a personality trait.

“Even though they have an idea of what they want, they’re not engaging in a process that will really help them understand the candidates’ or the applicants’ standing on those characteristics,” he says.

Critics of personality assessments also claim it’s too easy to game these tests. John Rust, director of Cambridge University’s Psychometrics Centre, told the economist that because the expected answers to these assessments are often clear, companies wind up “selecting the people who know what the right answers are.”

Morgeson admits this is especially problematic when using these assessments for hiring, since job applicants are more motivated to lie and tell interviewers what they want to hear. But good personality assessors have ways to know when someone’s lying, he says:

  1. They build a lie/cheat scale into the assessment. One way to do this is to ask a candidate if they endorse something that doesn’t exist. If they answer in the affirmative, this raises the question, what else are they lying about?
  2. When a potential hire’s answers seem too good to be true, they follow up with them about it in some kind of interview process.
  3. They reach out to the candidate’s references and ask them to answer the same question about the job candidate and see if the responses line up.

“The whole point of the hiring process is you’re trying to learn the most you can about an applicant in as many different ways as possible,” Morgeson says.

Businessinsider.com | May 5, 2015 | RACHEL GILLETT

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#Leadership: 4 Ways To Drive Opportunities To Your Company With #Executive Branding…Understanding Executive #Branding is Like Unlocking the Secret to Getting Picked 1st in Middle School Dodgeball. It Centers on 2 Things: Being Good & Being Liked

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Understanding executive branding is like unlocking the secret to getting picked first in middle school dodgeball. It centers on two things: being good and being liked. Similarly, executive branding verifies your value in the field and creates familiarity that enhances trust between you and potential customers.

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As Bryan Kramer puts it, people want a natural human-to-human connection with brands. Unfortunately, companies now have less time to form that bond. In fact, most B2B buyers don’t talk to a sales rep until they’re 57 percent of the way through their purchasing decision.

With executive branding, however, the audience feels connected to the individuals behind the company long before the first point of contact. You can spark conversations with prospects and influence their decisions before they’re ready to reach out to you.

Forging a Connection Through Executive Branding

Thought leadership has been a core part of Influence & Co.’s success; we’ve consistently shared this information in whitepapers like this one. From the start, we’ve positioned our leaders as subject-matter experts. And we’ve seen firsthand how executive branding can build the company brand, dissolve trust barriers, attract and nurture leads throughout the marketing funnel, and keep us top of mind when prospects and customers are ready to buy or provide a referral.

We recently had a large account sign up for our services because its leader read one of my articles, “Be A Leader In Your Industry: Help Others.” It was a simple yet transparent view of what I had done to help grow the company by helping people.

I received several emails from readers who have attracted more opportunities since adopting this mentality. But it also begs the question: Would people have related in the same way if the “help others” message had come from my company?

Looking at it from the other extreme, a company that blasts out a PR blitz to confess its wrongdoings won’t have the same effect. By openly discussing Target’s struggles, Jeff Jones has helped humanize the brand because the audience can sympathize with him in a way that doesn’t translate with brand-sponsored messaging. I use this example a lot because there just aren’t other brands that will take the leap like this, so there aren’t a lot of examples out there.

 

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Hone Your Executive Branding With These 4 Strategies

Executive branding doesn’t just draw you closer to your audience; it also positions your company as an authority in its industry. Some companies do this through product development, but when a company can monetize key employees’ expertise through content creation and speaking engagements, the brand-building effects are astounding.

Beth Comstock and Dave Kerpen are two illustrative examples of executive branding done right. Dave has combined consistent publishing, paid speaking engagements, and book writing to fuel both his Likeable Media brand and his growing startup, Likeable Local. Beth has also positioned herself as a prominent figure in the marketing world by offering valuable content online and makingmemorable speeches.

As a result, both have become revered industry leaders and have driven continuous opportunities back to their companies. There’s a huge size difference between Likable Media and General Electric, but the results are the same. Having leaders who authentically engage with your target audience makes a big difference.

You, too, can reap the benefits of a comprehensive executive branding strategy by promoting your key employees through these four strategies:

1. Create thought leadership content. Publishing guest-contributed content is the core initiative that nurtures every other executive branding opportunity. If you’re consistently building a web of content that keeps you top of mind, it will be a catalyst to more speaking, networking, and publishing opportunities.

2. Secure speaking engagements. Speaking is one of the best ways to authentically engage your audience. From the moment you walk into a conference or event, others perceive you as an authoritative figure. If you tailor your speech to the right audience and have the content to back it up, your audience will walk away with a renewed level of trust in you that will drive valuable opportunities your way.

3. Network. Every leader can verify the brand-building ripple effect of strategic networking. The more connected you stay within your industry, the more your brand will shine. The cornerstone of any effective networking strategy is treating people well, helping them achieve their goals, and connecting them with other valuable people.

4. Publish books. The notoriety that comes with authoring a book can feel tempting, but this strategy should be last on your executive branding list. Until you tackle thought leadership content, speaking engagements, and networking, don’t try to justify the time it takes to write a valuable book. However, when you’re ready, there are some unique opportunities that come from publishing a book.

The objective of any branding strategy boils down to establishing a human-to-human connection. People don’t want to have a conversation, eat dinner, or share secrets with a company; they

want to do those things with real people. Executive branding is the secret ingredient that will position you as a likeable industry figure and encourage prospects to always choose you first.

John Hall is the CEO of Influence & Co., a company that specializes in expertise extraction and knowledge management that are used to fuel marketing efforts.

Forbes.com | May 3, 2015 | John Hall

#Strategy: What I Learned About Life After Interviewing 80 Highly Successful People…I Don’t Think I Spoke to a Single Person who Believed in Setting Personal Goals. But 100% of the People I Spoke to Wanted to Solve a Problem for the Many

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“You interrupt too much,” people email me. “Let your guests finish talking.” But I can’t help it. I get curious. I want to know! Now!  Over the past year I interviewed about 80 guests for my podcast. My only criteria: I was fascinated by some aspect of each person.

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I didn’t limit myself by saying “each one had to be an entrepreneur” or “had to be a success.”

I just wanted to talk to anyone who made me curious about their lives. I spoke to entrepreneurs, comedians, artists, producers, astronauts, writers, rappers, and even this country’s largest beer brewer.

Will I do it for the next year? Maybe. It’s hard.

Sometimes I would pursue a guest for six months with no reply and then they would call and say, “Can you do right now?” and I’d change all plans with kids, Claudia, business.

I had no favorites. They were all great. I interviewed Peter Thiel, Coolio, Mark Cuban, Arianna Huffington, Amanda Palmer, Tony Robbins, and many more. I’m really grateful they all wanted to talk to me.

Podcasting, to be honest, was just an excuse for me to call up whoever I wanted to call and ask them all sorts of personal questions about their lives. If I wanted to talk about “Star Wars,” I called the author of a dozen Star Wars novels.

If I wanted to talk about Twisted Sister, I called up the founder of the band. If I wanted to talk sex I called the women who ran the “Ask Women” podcast.

I wanted to know at what point were they at their worst. And how they got better. Each person created a unique life. I wanted to know how they did it. I was insanely curious.

As Coolio told me, “You got me to reveal some deep stuff I didn’t want to reveal. Kudos.” Tony Robbins had to literally shake himself at one point and say, “Wait, how did we end up talking about this?” I can’t help it. I want to know.

Here are the most important things I learned. I can’t specify which person I learned what from. It hurts my head when I think about it because many of the 80 said the exact same thing about how they ended up where they were.

Here is some of what they said:

A) A life is measured in decades.

Too many people want happiness, love, money, connections, everything yesterday. Me too. I call it “the disease.” I feel often I can paint over a certain emptiness inside if only…if only…I have X.

But a good life is like the flame of a bonfire. It builds slowly, and because it’s slow and warm it caresses the heart instead of destroys it.

 

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B) A life is measured by what you did TODAY, even this moment.

This is the opposite of “A” but the same. You get success in decades by having success now.

That doesn’t mean money now. It means, “Are you doing your best today?”

Everyone worked at physical health, improving their friendships and connections with others, being creative, being grateful. Every day.

For those who didn’t, they quickly got sick, depressed, anxious, fearful. They had to change their lives. When they made that change, universally they all said to me, “that’s when it all started.”

C) Focus is not important, but Push is (reinvention).

Very few people have just one career. And for every career, it’s never straight up.

When you have focus, it’s like saying, “I’m just going to learn about only one thing forever.” But “the push” is the ability to get up every day, open up the shades, and push through all the things that make you want to go back to sleep.

Even if it means changing careers 10 times. Or changing your life completely. Just pushing forward to create a little more life inside yourself.

Compound life is much more powerful than compound interest.

D) Give without thinking of what you will receive.

I don’t think I spoke to a single person who believed in setting personal goals. But 100% of the people I spoke to wanted to solve a problem for the many.

It doesn’t matter how you give each day. It doesn’t even matter how much. But everyone wanted to give and eventually they were given back.

E) Solving hard problems is more important than overcoming failure.

The outside world is a mirror of what you have on the inside. If Thomas Edison viewed his 999 attempts at creating a lightbulb a failure then he would’ve given up. His inside was curious. His inside viewed his “attempts” as experiments. Then he did #1000. Now we can see in the dark.

Dan Ariely was burned all over his body and used that experience to research the psychology of pain and ultimately the psychology of behavior and how we can make better decisions.

Tony Robbins lost everything when his marriage ended, but he came back by coaching thousands of people.

It’s how you view the life inside you that creates the life outside of you. Every day.

tony robbinsCourtesy of Tony RobbinsTony Robbins.

F) Art and success and love is about connecting all the dots.

Here are some dots: The very personal sadness sitting inside of you. The things you learn. The things you read about. The things you love. Connect the dots. Give it to someone.

Now you just gave birth to a legacy that will continue beyond you.

G) It’s not business, it’s personal.

Nobody succeeded with a great idea.

Everyone succeeded because they built networks within networks of connections, friends, colleagues all striving towards their own personal goals, all trusting each other, and working together to help each other succeed.

This is what happens only over time. This is why giving creates a bigger world because you can never predict what will happen years later.

Biz Markie described to me how he helped a 7-year-old kid named Jay-Z with his lyrics.

Peter Thiel’s ex employees created tens of billions of dollars worth of companies.

Marcus Lemonis saves businesses every week on his show “The Profit.” It doesn’t come by fixing their accounting. It comes from fixing the relationships with the partners and the customers and the investors.

The best way to create a great business over time: Every day send one thank you letter to someone from your past. People (me) often say you can’t look back at the past. But this is the one way you can. You create the future by thanking the past.

H) You can’t predict the outcome, you can only do your best.

Hugh Howey thought he would write novels that only his family would read. So he wrote ten of them. Then he wrote “Wool,” which he self-published and has sold millions of copies and Ridley Scott is making the movie.

Clayton Anderson applied to be an astronaut for 15 years in a row and was rejected each time until the 16th.

cookin with cooliowww.amazon.comCoolio.

Coolio wrote lyrics down every day for 17 years before having a hit. Noah Kagan was fired from Facebook and Mint without making a dime before starting his own business. Wayne Dyer quit his secure job as a tenured professor, put a bunch of his books in car and drove across the country selling them in every bookstore. Now he’s sold over 100,000,000 books.

Sometimes when I have conversations with these people they want to jump right to the successful parts but I stop them. I want to know the low points. The points where they had to start doing their best. What got them to that point.

I) The same philosophy of life should work for an emperor and a slave.

Ryan Holiday told me that both Marcus Aurelius, an emperor, and Epictetus, a slave, both subscribed to the idea of stoicism. You can’t predict pleasure or pain. You can only strive for knowledge and giving and fairness and health each day.

Many people write me it’s easy for so-and-so to say that now that he’s rich. Every single person I spoke to started off in a gutter or worse. (Well, most of them.)

Luck is certainly a component, but in chess there’s a saying (and this applies to anything) “it’s funny how always the best players seem to be lucky.”

J) The only correct path is the path correct for you.

Scott Adams tried about 20 different careers before he settled on drawing Dilbert. Now, he’s in 2000 papers, has written Dilbert books, Dilbert shows, Dilbert everything. Everyone was shocked when Judy Joo gave up a Wall St. career to go back to cooking school. Now she’s on the Food Channel as an “iron chef.”

Don’t let other people choose your careers. Don’t get locked in other people’s prisons they’ve set up just for you. Personal freedom starts from the inside but ultimately turns you into a giant, freeing you from the chains the little people spent years tying around you.

K) Many moments of small, positive, personal interactions build an extraordinary career.

Often people think that you have to fight your way to the top. But for everyone I spoke to it was small kindnesses over a long period of time that built the ladder to success. I think I’m starting to sound like a cliche on this. But it’s only a cliche because it’s true.

L) Taking care of yourself comes first.

Kamal Ravikant picked himself off a suicidal bottom by constantly repeating “I love you” to himself. Charlie Hoehn cured his anxiety by using every moment he could to play.

I’ve written before: The average kid laughs 300 times a day. The average adult…5.

Something knifed our ability to smile. Do everything you can to laugh, to create laughter for others, and then what can possibly be bad about today? I think that’s why I try to interview so many comedians are comedy writers. They make me laugh. It’s totally selfish.

M) The final answer: People do end up loving what they succeed at, or they succeed at what they love.

mark cuban shark tank ABC/Michael DesmondMark Cuban.

Mark Cuban said, “My passion was to get rich!” But I don’t really believe him. He loved computers so he created a software company. Then he wanted to watch Ohio basketball in Pittsburgh so he created Broadcast.com. I worked with Broadcast.com a little bit back in 1997. They were crusaders about bringing video to the Internet.

Sure, he wanted to use that to get rich. Because he knew better than anyone then how to let a good idea lead him to success.

But deep down he was a little kid who wanted to watch his favorite basketball. And now what does he do? He owns a basketball team.

N) Anybody, at any age

The ages of the people I spoke to ranged from 20 to 75. Each is still participating every day in the worldwide conversation. I asked Dick Yuengling from Yuengling beer why he even bothered to talk to me. He’s 75 and runs the biggest American-owned brewery worth about $2 billion. He laughed and said, “Well, you asked me.”

I just realized this list can go on for another 100 items.

The specifics of success. How to overcome hardships. How any one person can move society forward.

Down to even what are the most productive hours of the day, what’s the one word most important for success, and what we can look forward to over the next century and maybe 100 other things.

Then I learned many things about myself.

Most of the people I asked to come on my podcast said, “NO!” I told Claudia the other day I haven’t been rejected this much since freshman year of high school. I had to re-learn how to deal with so much rejection.

I’ve always been a big reader but never as much as this year. I read everything by all the guests.

Some weeks I felt like I was spending 10 hours a day preparing for podcasts. I learned to interview, to listen, to prepare, to pursue, to entertain, to educate.

Podcasting seems like it’s becoming an industry, or a business idea, or something worth looking at by entrepreneurs or investors. I have no clue about that.

For me, podcasting this year was just about calling anyone I wanted to call and talking to them. I felt like a little boy interviewing his heroes.

I highly recommend finding ways to call people for almost no reason. I learned a huge amount.

But it was hard.

It’s one of those things where I can say, “I don’t know if I can ever do that again.” But I also know I’m probably going to say the same thing next year.

This article originally appeared at The Altucher Confidential. Copyright 2014.

 

Businessinsider.com | December 29, 2014 |  James Altucher

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