#Leadership : This is How to Deal with your #IncompetentCoworkers …You Know the Person who Doesn’t Pull their Weight? Here are a Few Dos and Don’ts to Getting Things to Change.

In almost every workplace, there is bound to be someone who isn’t pulling their own weight.

When you’re an ambitious, hard-working employee who is committed to growing your career and the company, it’s frustrating to work with someone who seems interested in only doing  the bare minimum.

Here are the dos and don’ts of dealing with a lazy colleague.

DON’T: VENT YOUR FRUSTRATION TO YOUR COLLEAGUES

You probably know that talking bad about your colleagues is a no-no. But it’s easier to succumb to this temptation than you think. As Lydia Dishman previously wrote in Fast Company, it’s natural to want to blow off steam. But as Jeffrey Lohr, a professor at the University of Arkansas, told Dishman, venting anger is similar to “emotional farting in a closed area.” And instead of making you feel better, you’ll probably end up being angrier. And you definitely don’t want to be known as the ill-tempered person in the office.

 

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DO: TRY TO SEE THEIR POINT OF VIEW, AND ACT ACCORDINGLY

Admittedly, this is hard to do. But sometimes, you can get them to pull their own weight when you understand why they’re, well, not. As Alyse Kalishwrote for The Muse, people are motivated by different things. Kalish cited Gretchen Rubin’s “four tendencies,” which categorizes people into upholder, obliger, rebel, and questioner. Someone with a “rebel” tendency, for example, does not respond well to authority and needs to feel like they have complete autonomy of their actions. This means that when you phrase a request to them, you don’t do it as a command. Kalish gave the example, “Jill isn’t sure we can get the presentation done by this afternoon. What do you think?”


Related: How to be more assertive at work when that’s just not your personality 


DON’T: COMPLAIN TO YOUR BOSS WITHOUT TALKING TO YOUR COWORKER FIRST

As tempting as it is to rant to your coworkers, it’s also tempting to go running to your boss–particularly if you know that they think of you as a high performer. It’s not going to make you feel better, for starters. It can also make you sound petty, and as Ask a Manager‘s Alison Green pointed out, your boss might already be aware of the problem and is trying to do something about it. Perhaps it’s not having an effect, but you moaning it about it isn’t going to make a difference.

DO: FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL ABOUT THE SITUATION

So you’ve tried to adopt your ask based on your coworkers’s personality, but that doesn’t seem to be working. It’s true that ultimately, your coworker’s actions aren’t in your control, but your actions are. One thing that you can do, Kalish suggested, is offer to help them. She gave the following example as a way to start the conversation:  “Hey, I noticed you’ve been staring at your screen all day–I’m free for a bit, anything I can help out with?”

DON’T: CONSTANTLY OVERCOMPENSATE FOR THEIR LACK OF EFFORTS

You might be tempted to pick up your coworker’s slack if you’re not the confrontational type. After all, you don’t want to get in trouble for their lack of efforts and shoddy work, right? But as Courtney C.W. Guerra, author of Is This Working?: The Businesslady’s Guide to Getting What You Want From Your Career pointed out, this approach is only acceptable in two situations. The mistake (or work) is so minor and doesn’t take long to fix, or the colleague in question is just having a really bad day, and you want to help them out. When it doesn’t fall into those two situations, you’ll just make yourself more angry and resentful, and that can impact your work. Don’t let someone else’s laziness ruin your reputation.


Related: How to deal with a passive-aggressive coworker 


DO: KEEP A DOCUMENTATION OF YOUR WORK AND INTERACTION

When all else fails and you do need to bring it up with your manager, it always helps to have documentation. Whether it’s setting expectations with your coworker over email or writing down your conversations and evidence of their behavior, you need to make sure that it’s based on facts, not feelings. Yes, it can be hard to be objective when every part of you wants to call this person out. But as Maurice Schweitzer, coauthor of the book Friend & Foe: When to Cooperate, When to Compete, and When to Succeed at Both, previously told Fast Company, “If you lose your cool, you will be in danger of looking undignified.” Don’t put yourself at risk of that.

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FastCompany.com | June 7, 2018 | BY ANISA PURBASARI HORTON 3 MINUTE READ

 

#Leadership : It’s Not Enough to Make Good Decisions, You Need to Make Efficient Ones as Well…In Order to Streamline our Process, We Came Up with Several Different Levels of Involvement & Worked to Minimize Everyone’s Time Commitments Within our #KeyDecisions . We Came Up with Five Levels.

One of the key lessons I’ve learned over the years as a founder, CEO, and business adviser is that it’s not enough to make good decisions; you need to make good decisions efficiently. Bad decisions are never good, but it’s just as bad to make good decisions late.

The fact is that business is full of decisions. Effective executives and effective leadership teams learn how to make tens, if not hundreds, of decisions every week to keep the business running well and growing. They do this by applying the right amount of energy, brain power, and focus required for each decision and not an ounce more.

As a CEO, one of the key moves I made for company growth was to establish a leadership team within my company. This was the team I worked with to think through the bigger issues and the team that became responsible for key departments. I realized I couldn’t do everything myself. I needed more input and insights into where to steer the business.

However when I first established this team, I made a critical mistake. I assumed that everyone should be involved in all of decisions. I made a long list with copious notes and called our first meeting with all of the senior team members. The first few decisions felt good because everyone was included. We had good discussion, and we found directions that everyone stood behind.

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The problem was that we only had completed three or four items over the course of two hours and we had over fifty items on the list. Clearly, this wasn’t going to work going forward. I realized that I needed to find a way to make both good decisions, and also make them in the limited time we had available.

In order to speed things up, we decided that not everyone needed to be involved at the same level for every decisions. For some decisions, certain people needed to be at the table to discussion, but for other decisions we just needed to collect information from a few people.

In order to streamline our process, we came up with several different levels of involvement and worked to minimize everyone’s time commitments within our key decisions. We came up with five levels.

Input

For many decisions, we needed to collect information from several sources for input into the process. We learned that while gathering the information was critical, the key executives who provided the information didn’t need to be part of the process. Once we had the information, they could go back to other work. This worked well for staffing and planning.

Collaborate

At times, we realized that we needed certain people at the table to discuss options and think through scenarios and possible outcomes. It was more than input, so we made it a higher level of involvement. We used this for deciding project team leads and new clients.

Make

One of the best things we did was get super clear on who was actually going to make a decision. Generally we got it down to one person. They took in all of the data, considered all of the options, and applied all of the criteria discussed to make the final choice. Our rule here was to have the person who was closest to the issue make the decision when possible. What we found eventually is that the person closest to the issue and the person who was going to have to live with the decisions were the best people to put in this role.

Approve

As CEO, I realized that I needed to delegate a lot of decisions if I was going to free myself up to focus on more strategic tasks and to empower the team. However, there were some things I still wanted to give a final blessing to before they were implemented. The rule was that I couldn’t change the decision, I could only approve or vote it. It freed up my time immensely and developed my team’s leadership skills.

Inform

This was a powerful move for the team. We realized that many people were coming to the table just so they could hear the discussion and learn what the final resolution was. Rather than having them sit through the meetings, we promised to take notes, record final decisions, and distribute them to the right people in a timely manner. This greatly reduced the people who needed to be at the meeting.

Once we had these levels defined and agreed to, we found the best strategy was to push people from the middle to the edges, to either to input or inform, if we could. We generally tried to only have one person make the decision and then I would often take approve simply to coordinate with strategy and longer term planning.

Now as a business coach, decision making is one of the main things I help leadership teams get right. The key is to balance quality with efficiency and to know when you’ve hit the “good enough” point so you can move forward onto the next decisions quickly and confidently.

Post Written by Bruce Eckfeldt : Bruce Eckfeldt is a five-time Inc 5000 CEO, Certified Gazelle’s Business Growth Coach, and President-Elect of the NYC chapter of EO

 

FastCompany.com | June 6, 2018

Your #Career : This Half-Hour Exercise Can Get you Out of Your #CareerRut …You Can’t Always take a Weeklong Vacation to Reflect & Reset, but If you Can get Away from your Office for an Hour, this Technique Can Put Things into Fresh Perspective.

Summer is finally here, and you’re thinking about your dream vacation. You conjure up images of sitting by the pool, drinking an icy cold beverage, and not thinking about your stress-filled life. Then reality hits, and you realize where you are. You’re sitting in your cubicle, uninspired and in a rut.

You know that slaving away in an office day in and day out isn’t doing you any favors. But you’re afraid to take time off, because you hate the post-vacation stress and extra work that awaits.

You might not always have control over your workload, but you can design your break so that you come back refreshed, more creative, and better equipped to tackle thorny problems. Here’s how.

SET ASIDE TIME FOR STRUCTURED REFLECTION

Even if you can’t take a long, restful vacation this summer, you can probably squeeze in one or two “disconnected days” to take a day off work and unplug. During that time, leave your regular environment. Take a day trip someplace nice, or even just drive at least 30 minutes away from where you work and live to get some physical as well as mental distance. The key is to get out of your day-to-day routine.

Once you’re there, take 30 minutes to do something that lifts up your mood–whether it’s reading or listening to inspiring content, calling up a close friend or family member, or even meditating or praying. Then grab a notebook or journal and just start writing and reflecting when you’re in that elevated state. Begin with gratitude, then move on to consider parts of your life where you know you’re not showing up the way you’d like to.

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Then examine your notes–don’t worry whether they’re jumbled–and commit to making specific changes. Write down the key adjustments you need to make to achieve your dreams and goals. Don’t just jot down the things you need to change, though; write openly about the frustrations and difficulties that have led you to where you are, including why you’ve struggled to make these changes in the past.

Finally, don’t forget about your big-picture dreams. A key component of structured reflection is to reconnect you with your “why.” It’s easy to lose sight of that underlying purpose while you’re in the midst of your daily routines. There’s also a huge difference between “means” goals and “ends” goals. “Ends” goals are the things that truly matter to you. For example, getting a college degree so you can get a great job is a means goal. But what is the end of getting a great job?


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SCHEDULE A WEEKLY MINI REFLECTION AND PLANNING SESSION

After you come back from your break, follow up with a condensed version of this journaling session around once a week for the next few weeks. This can help reinforce the goals and changes you committed to in your initial, out-of-office structured reflection. Here are a few things to focus your thoughts on:

  • How your previous week went (the good, the bad, etc.)
  • What you did well (your “wins”)
  • What didn’t go well (what you didn’t do, who you didn’t reach out to, where you fell short)
  • Any significant events (great moments with a friend or family member, or a breakthrough in your work)
  • Your plans for the following week
  • How you intend to take what you learned from your previous week and do better next week
  • Your bigger-picture goals (in a short bullet-point list as a reminder of your “why” and “end” goals)
  • Your proximal goals (things you’re immediately working toward over the next one to six months)
  • Specific to-dos you need to finish the following week (your morning routine, learning, relationships, work, fitness, etc.)

Here, too, you need to prepare your mind before starting this planning session. The goal is likewise to elevate your thinking, then make powerful plans and decisions from that positive frame of mind. So before you crank out the pen, do whatever you need to assume the best mental outlook, whether it’s meditating or exercising outside.

The truth is, your best ideas won’t happen while you’re sitting at your desk working. Your brain operates best in a rested and relaxed state. Just like your body, you can’t push your mind past its point of exhaustion without it shutting down. So schedule time away from work the next time you feel stuck in a rut or close to burning out.

Making time for structured reflection can help you come back with ideas you’d never have thought of otherwise. Now that’s a productive vacation–even if you don’t physically take one.

FastCompany.com | June 6, 2018 | BY BENJAMIN HARDY 4 MINUTE READ

 

#Leadership : Digital Transformation- In A World Where Data Rules, All Companies Are Tech Companies…Whether You Are on Board or Not, the Data Revolution has Made #TechCompanies out of All of Us. 

We are sitting smack dab in the middle of the data revolution. Every single company regardless of size or industry has the ability to collect data—on supplies, on inventory and of course, on consumers, just to name a few. And it’s no secret that data can aide in decision making and increase the productivity of our business operations. Whether you are on board or not, the data revolution has made tech companies out of all of us. 

In fact, according to a recent survey conducted by Tech Pro Research, almost all of the respondents said their company collected data to glean business insights. The difference between them? Every company used a different piece of technology to get to those insights. Let’s take a look at how data revolution has helped companies change.

Collection, Storage and Analysis? Technology Can Help

Thanks to the incubator that is the tech world, we have nearly unlimited options when it comes to tech products for our businesses. We aren’t simply sending emails or pushing out surveys anymore. Instead, we are watching open rates of those emails and measuring response rates of those surveys. 

How are companies around the world making the switch from simply doing to analyzing? They are using technologyto collect, store and analyze for them AND in a world where data security and privacy are becoming increasingly critical they are actively investing in making sure they use the data appropriately and invest in technology and partnerships to protect the data they collect. 

Collect

Remember when we used to take down critical information on pen and paper? We have come such a long way. Sensors are everywhere and are collecting critical information for us. Someone doesn’t have to stand in the warehouse and count the boxes or the number of products. The sensors are doing the work.   

Businesses are also using RFID sensors in key fobs, wristbands and more to gather information about consumers as well as products. Sensors placed within each product in a warehouse can be tracked and monitored. Or, perhaps a retailer would like to know how much milk is flying off the shelf. RFID sensors are perfect for gathering physical data such as this. 

IoT sensors using machine learning capabilities are changing the way businesses make changes to their products, marketing strategy and UX. For example, a sensor within a warehouse can tell whether the temperature is right for the product. If it isn’t, it will change it and notify the correct party. Your local grocery store can all but guarantee that the produce that was shipped from a warehouse three states over was always kept at the right temperature thanks to sensors. That’s pretty cool if you ask me. 

Store

For data storage, the cloud is still the king. Businesses are able to increase or decrease their storage capacity depending on the data they are collecting. The cloud does not take up on-premise space and it is cost-effective and scalable. I’m sure I don’t need to go on and on about the benefits of the cloud because like most businesses you probably have data stored on four to five clouds.

Other businesses are taking advantage of Data as a Service or DaaS companies that store the data and then make it available for businesses. DaaS benefits include the ability to move data from one platform to another, the lack of repetitive and multiple versions of data, outsourcing of the presentation aspect of data storage, easy collaboration and accessibility from any location and any device. 

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Analysis 

The most critical part of using data isn’t the collection or the storage. Data would not be useful without the analysis. Companies are beginning to invest in technology such as deep machine learning and artificial intelligence to help them get the most out of their data. AI allows businesses to analyze natural language, data relevancy, relationships and anomalies within data sets. A person doesn’t need to sift through the data to find patterns, a computer can do it for you. 

Businesses are starting their analysis by using data preprocessing tools to rid their data of repetition and create a data set that is consistent in format. The data is cleansed, which makes it easier to read and understand. Businesses are also using knowledge discovery tools to mine big data that is stored on multiple sources. 

But my favorite part of the data revolution would be predictive analytics. Companies now have a crystal ball, basically, to help them make decisions in the future based on past data. I’ve told the story before about the Harley Davidson dealership that increased their leads by nearly 3000 percent in just three months.  

Haven’t Joined the Revolution Yet? Here’s Why You Should

While many enterprise companies are well on their way in their data strategies, some businesses, such as small and medium-sized businesses, the data revolution is only a thought. However, to be competitive, SMBs and other businesses must join the revolution as soon as possible. Business who use data to target their core audience will come out on top. How do we make it happen? 

  • Choose the right data to track. This may look different for all businesses. For SMBs, choose the right data with careful thought. You will want to place what attention you have on the most critical data. 
  • Collect clean and useful data. Now, businesses must collect clean and useful data from the data they have decided to track. As stated earlier, there are tools such as preprocessing tools and AI that can help. 
  • Integrate that data from all sources. Tools such as DaaS and the cloud can help SMBs and other businesses integrate their data into one source. 
  • Automate the analytics process. It’s impossible to effectively analyze all data sources together without some form of automation. New technology such as AI can help. 
  • Put the data to work. It takes time and work to gather the critical data about your customers. However, it must be done to stay competitive and improve their experience. AI tools, collection tools such as RFID sensors and more make it easier to put this data to work without breaking the entire budget. 
  • Manage and Protect. Perhaps nothing is more important than how you treat your customer data. Understanding your responsibility for protecting your customer data and using it appropriately based on the customers preferences. The recent implementation of GDPR rules in Europe has forced companies to consider their data use, but regardless of these rules, companies should be considerate to their customer data and be sure to secure it using the latest technology and/or by working with partner companies that truly understand cyber security.

For all businesses, it’s time to embrace the data revolution and begin to collect, store and analyze. Despite the challenges, businesses of all sizes will benefit from the treasure trove to be found within their data strategy. 

Daniel Newman is CEO of Broadsuite Media Group, principal analyst at Futurum and author of Futureproof.

Your #Career : #CareerAdvice – How Do I Go from Outstanding to #Terminated ? …One of the Most Consistent Findings from my Research concerns #PerformanceReviews . Prior to Being Let Go, nearly All of the People I Interviewed had Received Glowing #PerformanceEvaluations .

The vast majority of managers provide an annual performance review for their direct reports. We’re all familiar with the drill. Has the employee met their goals? Do they have strong productivity and attendance? Do they demonstrate customer service? Are they a team player? And generally there is a rating system that accompanies these questions. Managers fill them out, discuss the results with their employee, and send the form to Human Resources.

Performance Reviews Should… 

This “event” provides an opportunity for us to appreciate our team member, thank them for their contributions, get to know more about their own goals, and provide them feedback for professional development. Sound familiar?

It stands to reason that if an employee had something they needed to work on, a manager would address it with them — if not before the performance review, at least during the review. Unfortunately, this is often not the case.

I interviewed 65 people for my book, “Fired: How to Manage Your Career in the Age of Job Uncertainty.” They were from all regions of the United States and worked at all levels of the organization. I was intentional about getting a diverse representation of demographics, professional levels and types of employers. Every one of the people interviewed was let go from his or her job.

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Glowing Performance Reviews

One of the most consistent findings from my research concerns performance reviews. Prior to being let go, nearly all of the people I interviewed had received glowing performance evaluations. They thought they were doing a great job and their performance reviews confirmed it.

And yet they were let go.

There were a few exceptions to this; those were mostly people who had a new supervisor. In these cases, the interviewees reported having strong performance reviews until they got a new boss, and then they received a less than positive performance review.

Job Security and Performance Reviews

Although it isn’t what we managers espouse, the rule of thumb is that great performance evaluations do not necessarily mean job security. We say we will have honest dialogue. We promote coaching and training. We talk about transparency and integrity. But, as one of my interviewees commented, “I see it all the time where I work now. People get good reviews and two months later they get terminated. If someone can make a better way (to do performance reviews), they should.” I can see all the Human Resources professionals out there nodding.

Another of my interviewees asked, “How does this happen? How do I go from outstanding to terminated?” I think we can all agree that unless there are extenuating circumstances like the employee commits an egregious offense, this shouldn’t happen.

The Big Why

So why does it? A few things are at work here. First, giving an employee honest feedback is difficult. Many managers would prefer not to engage in a difficult conversation. They fear their employee’s reaction or they don’t want to address a conflict. They may not have the interpersonal skills necessary to address the issue. So people get satisfactory reviews even when they don’t deserve them. And sometimes they lose their jobs because no one intervened.

Second, sometimes the manager him or herself may not have given adequate orientation or direction about the job requirements and the organization’s culture, emphasis on the culture. Studies show that being a “fit” is more important to job security than job competence. So the employee loses his or her job because they weren’t adequately prepared.

Third, and most importantly, there are a lot of factors at play besides job performance which impacts a person’s job security, such as leadership transitions, economic considerations, and office politics and relationships. These have nothing to do with job performance.

We Can Do Better

While we can’t control every variable, as leaders we can help other managers understand the importance of clearly and explicitly stating expectations and providing the training employees need to do their jobs. It’s also incumbent on all leaders to help employees understand the culture, including the unwritten rules of the organization. And while hardly anyone looks forward to a difficult conversation, we can foster an environment where managers are encouraged, expected and taught how to provide clear instruction and feedback to employees about how they are doing their jobs. We owe it to our employees and the people they serve.

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FSC Career Blog | June 5, 2018

Your #Career : #CareerAdvice – You Gave your Notice, and your #Boss Gives a #CounterOffer . Now What? Even if You’re One Foot Out the Door, Don’t Rule It Out Immediately.

You’ve received an offer for a different job, and you’ve finally mustered the courage to have that dreaded conversation with your current boss to let him or her know that you’re packing your bags and hitting the road. But, to your surprise, that exchange doesn’t end with a brief handshake and those standard, awkward well wishes. No, instead you find yourself met with a counteroffer.

What now? You weren’t prepared for this, and you’re feeling confused about how to figure out the best way to move forward. Don’t panic yet!

Here’s everything you need to know about receiving a counteroffer from your current employer:

WHAT IS A COUNTEROFFER?

While the situation can be tricky, the actual concept of a counteroffer is actually pretty straightforward. When your existing employer finds out that you’re considering accepting a new job elsewhere, occasionally they’ll counter that offer with a raise (or, certain other perks–like more flexibility, a promotion, etc.) in an effort to keep you on the team.

Why would a company do this? Well, put simply, keeping an existing employee is far more cost-efficient (not to mention easier) than needing to train someone new. So many employers are willing to bump up a salary for an employee who’s considering packing up his desk–especially when it actually ends up still being cheaper in the long run.

Now that you have the basics covered, you’re left with one big question: What should you do when you’re presented with a counteroffer?


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Here are a few tips to help you navigate those oftentimes murky waters:

DON’T RULE IT OUT IMMEDIATELY

Your first inclination might be to thank your boss for the offer and carry on with your final two weeks. I get it–you were already mentally out the door, which makes considering staying onboard seem that much more unrealistic.

However, while the company is obviously looking out for their own best interests, this counteroffer is also a compliment to you. Obviously, the company is invested in you and pleased with the work you’ve been doing, so it’s worth at least listening to what they’re bringing to the table. You might be surprised by what they’re willing to do to keep you.

CONSIDER YOUR NEEDS

Needing to weigh two job offers–one for that new role and one from your existing employer–can be tough. When you’re feeling confused, reflect back on what inspired your search for a new job in the first place. Were you seeking a company culture that was a better fit for you? More flexibility? A step up the ladder? A career change altogether?

Remember, while it’s easy to get swept up in the numbers, counteroffers aren’t all about money and perks. Ultimately, you need to keep your focus on your own career values to get some clarity on which role is the best next step for you.


Related: 5 mistakes to avoid when asking for a raise 


BE HESITANT ABOUT DISCLOSING SALARY

Even though keeping your eye on the big picture is important, most counteroffers still involve a financial aspect–after all, most candidates will seriously consider whichever role is offering them more.

But remember that there’s no rule dictating that you need to disclose the details of your other offer to your boss. In fact, neglecting to do so is what gives you more leverage.

If your existing employer doesn’t know the specifics of what they’re up against, they’re more likely to come back with their very best offer–giving you a more serious option to consider.

Think carefully.

Ultimately, only you can decide whether you should stay or go when you’re presented with a counteroffer. However, many experts are quick to warn job seekers that accepting a counteroffer can be complex.

First and foremost, you’ve already demonstrated to your existing employer that you’re on the lookout for greener pastures. The fact that you were strongly considering leaving could deem you as a flight risk. And, as terrifying as it sounds, there’s no guaranteeing that your employer didn’t just counteroffer to buy themselves some time to find your replacement.


Related: 3 times it’s okay to change your mind about a job offer (or your whole career) 


Additionally, accepting a counteroffer can potentially burn two bridges simultaneously–one with the employer you’re turning down (who likely won’t consider hiring you again) and one with your existing employer who is now wary of your motives and skeptical of your loyalty.

That’s not to say that accepting a counteroffer is always a bad idea–there are plenty of circumstances where it’s played out exceptionally well, particularly if you make your best effort to always be professional and gracious when turning an employer down.

However, those potential drawbacks do illustrate the importance of analyzing your unique situation, weighing your own priorities, and settling on the best route for you. In the end, there isn’t one right or wrong answer.

 

FastCompany.com | June 4, 2018 | BY KAT BOOGAARD—FLEXJOBS 4 MINUTE READ

 

Your #Career : #CareerAdvice #Jobs – How to Find Out Why You Didn’t Get the Job…It’s Incredibly Frustrating when a #Recruiter or #HiringManager Doesn’t Share a Concrete Reason Why You were Passed Over.

You send in a stellar resume. You blow the recruiter away in the phone screen. And you wow everyone you speak with during your in-person interview. And yet, you still don’t get the job. Worst of all, you don’t know why you didn’t get it — you either didn’t hear back at all, or received feedback so vague that it’s virtually useless (e.g. “We decided to go with another candidate who was a better fit.”) Is there anything worse?

It’s incredibly frustrating when a recruiter or hiring manager doesn’t share a concrete reason why you were passed over, but if it happens to you, don’t worry. Often, there’s still a way to figure out what went wronghere’s how.

1. Reach Out to the Decision Maker

If you have the contact info of the hiring manager, it’s best to chat with them rather than a recruiter or HR representative, says Ren Burgett, career coach and owner of 3R Coach.

“An HR manager or recruiter is more likely to give you a programmed HR response such as, ‘We found a candidate that was a better fit for our needs.’ The hiring manager is more likely to give you a candid response,” she explains.

If you haven’t already been in touch with the hiring manager, though, you may want to reach out to someone who can point them in your direction.

“If you don’t have their contact details, you need to get in touch with whoever your point of contact was throughout the recruitment process. Even if they can’t provide feedback themselves, they will be able to pass your query onto someone who can,” says Steve Pritchard, HR Manager at Cuuver.com.

When you haven’t been given the hiring manager’s contact information, it can be tempting to bypass your point of contact and look them up on LinkedIn or Google their email address, but this is a mistake, Pritchard says: “They may not feel too comfortable with you contacting them using a number/email they didn’t provide you with.”

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2. Express Gratitude

Nobody wants to engage with a candidate who sounds demanding or presumptuous, so make sure to open your message with a note of thanks.

Thanking someone for [fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][taking the] time to interview you and provide the opportunity can always start the conversation in a positive manner,” says Shanalee Sharboneau, President/Technical Recruiter at Staffing Science, LLC.

In particular, you should express gratitude for the fact that they are going out of their way to read your note. After all, they don’t have to share feedback with you.

“Show in your request for feedback that you appreciate the recruiter/hiring manager is likely to be busy. This way, you don’t sound too pushy or demanding,” Pritchard adds.

3. Be Positive

You may be upset that you didn’t get the job, but remember: you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. It’s okay to acknowledge that you’re disappointed with the outcome, but don’t express resentment or aggression.

Show “that you are understanding of their decision not to hire you, otherwise, you may sound bitter about not getting the job rather than someone looking for honest feedback to help them with their job search,” Pritchard continues.

And instead of taking a self-deprecating approach like “How did I screw up” or “Where did I go wrong”, frame the conversation as a quest for personal growth.

“Don’t make your question about ‘why’ you didn’t get the job, make your question about ‘how’ you can improve. People are more likely to respond to someone that seeks out growth as opposed to someone that just wants answers,” Burgett says.

4. Keep It Short and Specific

When reaching out for feedback, “make your email no more than one paragraph,” Burgett recommends. After all, they are probably plenty busy with their day-to-day tasks, so you want to make sure to honor their time.

You can save them even more time by avoiding general questions like “Why didn’t I get the job?” and instead drilling down into a few precise issues. Burgett recommends including “two to three specific questions [that] you would like feedback on from the interview process.”

One questions that Laura Handrick, Career Analyst at FitSmallBusiness.com, recommends asking is “what might you have done, said or provided differently that would have made the company choose YOU instead of the other candidate.”

5. Open the Door for Future Opportunities

Just because you were rejected from a job doesn’t always mean that you can never apply there again — you may have been a close second. At the end of your message, reiterate your interest in the company (if you are truly interested) and consider adding something like “if anything changes, I’d love to connect regarding future opportunities.”

“That will go far, and many times, new hires fail in the first few months. They’ll remember your graciousness,” Handrick says.

You can also see if they might be willing to refer you to another opportunity.

“Always end the email by asking if they know of anyone else you can reach out to as you continue your job search. If you didn’t get the job, perhaps you can get a lead [for] another job. Use this as an opportunity to network,” Burgett says.

6. Be Patient & Ready to Take No for an Answer

If the person you reach out to fails to respond, don’t ping them every day until they do.

“Giving feedback, particularly constructive feedback, is hard, so allowing time for preparing will likely get you more thoughtful responses,” points out Dr. Dawn Graham, Career Management Director at the Wharton School and host of Career Talk.

Even if they never respond, you shouldn’t pester them, Graham adds.

“Companies tend to avoid giving candidates feedback to avoid opening themselves up to risk,” she explains. “In addition, many hirers have trouble putting their fingers on a clear definition of ‘fit’ or likability, which are two powerful aspects of hiring decisions that can be challenging to put into words. Therefore, they may pass on giving feedback to a rejected job seeker for the sheer reason that even they are unable to verbalize their final decision in a way that will be meaningful to the overlooked applicant.”

Sample Message

Want an example of what exactly you could say to a hiring manager? Burgett recommends the following:

Hi (Hiring Manager),

I wanted to thank you for the amazing opportunity to interview for the position of (job title) with your company. I really enjoyed learning about (company name) and getting to know you and your team during the interview process. I understand you have decided to move forward with another candidate that better fits your current needs.

As I continue my job search, I would love to get your feedback on how I can improve as a candidate. When you have a minute, could you provide insight into what I can improve upon to help me stand out and progress in my career? Specifically, I would appreciate feedback on the following:

1. What is the one skill I can improve upon to help advance my career that may be holding me back?

2. If I had the opportunity to redo my interview, what is the one thing I should have done differently?

I appreciate any candid feedback you can offer as it will help me understand the areas I need to improve. Additionally, if you know of any companies that may be hiring for similar positions or anyone else I should reach out to as I continue my job search, please let me know.

Again, thank you for the opportunity to interview for the position. I wish you and your team continued success.

Sincerely,

Your Name

There’s no doubt that getting rejected from a job you were interested in is upsetting, and it can be doubly so if you don’t hear actionable feedback from the hiring team. But odds are, it’s nothing personal, so try not to take it that way. And remember — the right job is out there. It’s only a matter of time until you find it.

 

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#Leadership : #WorkSmart -How to Get Back on Track When you’re Having an Unproductive Day….A Rocky Start Shouldn’t Dictate your Entire Workday. Do These Things to Reverse your Unproductivity.

If you’re a high achiever, you juggle too many things over the course of a day. And despite your best intentions, you’re bound to have days where you feel burnt out, or just plain unproductive. This can lead to a self-destructive cycle–you beat yourself up for being unfocused, which further distracts you from what needs to be accomplished.

As a small business owner who manages a chronic illness, I’ve dealt with my fair share of days that aren’t as productive as I’d like. Over time, I’ve learned the importance of having a “reset” button–or, in other words, turning around my unproductive day and not letting it go to waste. Often, you know in your gut when you’re not being as focused as you would like. There are, however, also a few signs you can use to identify whether you’re primed for unproductivity:

  • You’re procrastinating, whether that means scrolling through Instagram or Facebook, or doing something you don’t normally enjoy doing, like working out or cleaning your house.
  • You’re staring at a blank document and can’t get yourself to write anything.
  • You had a bad night’s sleep and you’re feeling off or tired.
  • You’re prioritizing other people’s goals and needs rather than your own.
  • You start something–a new project, document, or even an email–and don’t finish it.

You don’t have to write off the day as a lost cause. There are lots of ways to recover your time that don’t involve punishing yourself for being less focused than usual. Instead, these strategies take the reality of the situation into account–you’re tired, distracted, overwhelmed, bored, or a combination of all of the above–and change the tone for the better.

With that in mind, here are my five tips for turning around an unproductive day.

1.PRIORITIZE WHAT NEEDS TO BE ACCOMPLISHED

It’s funny–it’s easy to be unproductive when you have too much to do. Feeling overwhelmed leads to prioritizing inefficiently (or not prioritizing at all), and trying to accomplish too much. When you feel stressed by your to-do list, you’re more likely to mismanage your time or even just give up. If everything is urgent and needs to get done today, you can feel paralyzed.

When this happens, stop. Take a step back and take another look at your to-do list. Identify what items absolutely have to be accomplished that day. Chances are, this whittles down your list significantly, making it feel a lot more manageable. By simply taking some of the pressure off yourself, you’re more able to focus and be productive.

Once you’ve made it through the day, sit down with your list again, and determine what tasks should be a priority for that week. By thinking realistically about your list for the coming days, you set yourself up for days that are more focused and less overwhelming.


Related: This CEO’s one-page list for keeping his priorities straight 


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2. CREATE A PRODUCTIVE AMBIENCE

If you can’t seem to focus, take a look around you. Are you distracted by your environment? And if you’re not distracted, are there ways that you could make your environment more conducive to you being productive?

My ideal environment includes atmospheric music without lyrics, natural light, a light snack, a drink like water or tea, and a comfortable seat. If I have all these elements, I’m much more likely to spend my time productively. I can really zone in and focus on what I’m doing.

Of course, you don’t always have total control over your environment. At the same time, you’re never totally out of control either. If you get unfocused when you’re hungry, make sure you have a supply of snacks on hand. Or, if you crave quiet but work in a busy, loud office with an open floor plan, make sure you’re armed with headphones before you leave the house every day.


Related: These are the weirdest productivity hack that really work


3. CHANGE UP THE SCENERY

Sometimes, you need to refresh your body and mind before you can be productive. When I feel unfocused, I like to change my surroundings. I’ll go for a walk, do yoga, or meditate—anything that gets me out of my chair and stops me from staring at my computer for an hour or so.

You can also change up the scenery by heading to a different place to work, as long as it won’t be distracting. If you usually work well in coffee shops, head to a new one nearby. Or snag an empty conference room at the office for a few hours. Even if you don’t have a lot of flexibility in your schedule, there are ways to tweak the scenery just enough to give you a fresh perspective.

4. LIMIT DISTRACTIONS (SOCIAL MEDIA IN PARTICULAR)

Distractions like social media can easily trainwreck productivity–and unfortunately, it’s extremely hard to pull the plug on them entirely. Luckily, there are lots of ways to limit these distracting factors.

You probably can’t delete your social media accounts (nor do you want to), but you can remove them from your phone. Or, you can put all your social media apps in a folder that’s out of sight. Try hiding your social media apps in a folder with more serious or daunting icons first, like the stocks or your banking apps. That way, you’ll have to think before you start scrolling, and it becomes less automatic.

Many of us rely on social media for work, so we can just log out and ignore it entirely. There’s a great plugin called KillNewsfeed that allows you access to Facebook, but blocks your newsfeed (aka the place where productivity goes to die). You can still do your Facebook-centered work, but you’re not distracted by every photo, update, or ad that you see.


Related: The real reason why you’re distracted has nothing to do with technology 


5. CHECK IN WITH AN ACCOUNTABILITY BUDDY

When we’re unproductive, we often feel shame, despair, and frustration. Even though we know these days happen, we end up dwelling in our negative feelings rather than moving forward.

An accountability buddy is someone who holds no judgments and provides a listening ear. It’s someone you can check in with and give an update on your progress (good or bad). The best part is, when you say your goals out loud, they become a lot more real. There’s someone else to hold you to them. They’re cheering you on and encouraging you when you veer off track.

If you don’t already have an accountability buddy (official or unofficial) in your life, it’s time to find that person. It can be a coworker, an industry colleague, a classmate, or a friend. Whoever it is, remember that the dynamic goes both ways–they support you, and you support them, too.

Most importantly, acknowledge that none of us are productive 100% of the time. It’s not about trying to be perfect. It’s about how you handle an unproductive day when it comes your way.

FastCompany.com | May 31, 2018 | BY HARPER SPERO—CAREER CONTESSA 5 MINUTE READ

Your #Career : How to Request a Lateral Transfer without Offending your #Boss …When you’ve Been at a Company for a While, you Might want to Switch Teams to Grow your Career. Here’s How to Have that Delicate Conversation with your Boss.

At some point during your tenure at a given company, you’re apt to reach a point where you’re tired of doing the same thing day in, day out. And if a promotion isn’t possible, your next best bet may be to switch over to a different team.

A lateral move can help your career in a number of ways. There’s just one challenge: How do you ask for that transfer without offending your current boss in the process? If you’re looking to jump from one team to another, here’s how to approach that delicate but necessary conversation.

1. SCHEDULE A SIT-DOWN AT THE RIGHT TIME

Telling your manager that you no longer wish to work for him or her can come as a blow, so don’t have that discussion on the fly. Rather, schedule a face-to-face meeting where you can share your thoughts and hear your boss’s thoughts at length. That said, choose a time when your boss can really focus and listen, which means don’t have that meeting first thing on a Monday or at 5 p.m. on a Friday. Also, don’t schedule that conversation the same week a major project your boss is overseeing is due. The last thing you want is for your manager to approach that sit-down in an already frazzled frame of mind.


Related: Don’t make a big career move without checking these 3 boxes first 


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2. MAKE IT CLEAR THAT IT’S NOT PERSONAL

Moving from one team to another isn’t necessarily a reflection on your boss’s management style–so make that clear. Tell your boss that your career has taken a shift, but explain how you got there so that your manager doesn’t think you’re making excuses. For example, if your boss runs a marketing team, but you’ve been growing increasingly interested in the analytical end of things, it makes sense that you’d want to move over to the data team. In that case, explain how reviewing that team’s weekly reports piqued your interest and drove you toward that decision.

3. THANK YOUR BOSS FOR A GREAT EXPERIENCE

Your manager might feel a little hurt that you’re looking to work for somebody else, even if you make it clear that it’s the nature of your daily tasks that’s fueling that move. Therefore, it never hurts to express your gratitude to your boss for all the things you’ve learned under his or her watch. You can also affirm your desire to continue working together in some capacity–perhaps as a cross-collaboration with your new team.


Related: Ask yourself these questions at every stage of your career 


4. OFFER TO HELP TRAIN A REPLACEMENT

Moving to another team doesn’t just mean potentially offending your current boss; it also means leaving him or her in the stressful position of having to find someone to replace you. So, make your manager’s life as easy as possible in that regard by offering to train the person who takes over your role, even if it means working evenings or weekends to keep up with your new duties all the while.

Your manager will no doubt appreciate that courtesy, and if your new boss is a good one, he or she will most likely agree to share you during that transition period. There’s nothing wrong with switching teams within your company. Just do your best to be mindful of your boss’s feelings in the process. The last thing you want is to spoil an otherwise solid relationship when you have the ability to make a clean break.

 

FastCompany.com | May 30, 2018 | BY MAURIE BACKMAN—THE MOTLEY FOOL 3 MINUTE READ

#Leadership : #CareerAdvice – How to Strategically Manage Frustration at Work….Frustration is Part of Life. Rather than Allowing it to Pull Your Strings, Learn to Understand and Manage It.

Frustration is a tempter, an emotional trickster. It goads us with the false promise that our feelings are worthy of the mounting fireworks display: This is the last straw. I’m fed up. Can you believe this guy? Frustration, with its loud, emotional appeal; why not take its bait, and surrender?

But what does it earn us when we do? What was the outcome when, fueled by frustration, we said something curt to our boss, rolled our eyes in a meeting, snapped at a co-worker, “accidentally” hung up on a customer?  Indulging frustration may feel satisfying, even necessary, for a moment. Then reality sets in, and with it the immediate need to clean up after our faux solution. If our indulgence had truly solved the problem, we wouldn’t need to run damage control.

It usually takes less energy to refrain from indulging frustration than to enact clean-up. Spraying frustration around the office makes our jobs harder, it doesn’t solve our problems and it makes us look bad.

Frustration is part of life. Rather than allowing it to pull your strings, learn to understand and manage it. This way, you can recognize the trickster and handle it in ways that benefit you.

Acquaint yourself with frustration

It’s hard to control what we don’t understand. So observe your own frustration. Dr. Laurie Nadel, psychotherapist, business coach and author of The Five Gifts: Discovering Hope, Healing and Strength When Disaster Strikes explains: “Frustration is not so much an emotion as it is a distorted cognitive response to a presupposition that we are entitled to get what we want in that particular moment.  Therefore, I see frustration as a state that gives us an opportunity for critical thinking which is defined as ‘thinking about how we think.’  I do not see it as destructive…I see it as a possibility for growth.”

Just because frustration can feel overbearing and outlet-seeking, doesn’t mean you have to react in kind. Your self-composure and control matter more, especially in the workplace.   

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Enact real problem-solving measures

Reacting poorly to frustration doesn’t just lead to a messy solution, it also doesn’t solve the problem. Move past the urge enact regretful or rude responses-recognize those as urgings from the trickster.

When you feel that urge to do something destructive, it means you need a break. You need a minute to get emotionally on top of things.  Dr. Nadel explains: “Recognize that when you are frustrated, you are being reactive rather than proactive.  If you recognize frustration as a signal that there is a situation that needs to be explored from a different angle, then you can welcome it for the opportunity it offers for creative thinking.”

You probably have a real problem on your hands-you’ve got a boss who doesn’t support you or a co-worker who drives you crazy. You need real solutions. You need to think that through and to talk to your support network.

But in that moment, while you’re on the phone with an angry customer who wants to blame you for everything, you need to get out of the interaction in a tidy way that benefits you. Then you can work through the bigger problem of the difficult boss or co-worker.

As you feel frustration mounting, instead of indulging it, examine it. “I feel stressed. This person is blaming me, and it’s not my fault. I worry that if I go to my boss about it, she won’t have my back. So I’m going to get off this call, causing as little disruption as possible. Then I’m going to think about my relationship with my boss, because if she can’t support me during stressful times I’m not sure that this role can be a fit for me.”

Don’t magnify problems for yourself by allowing frustration to take the wheel. Take a moment. Analyze the issues. Free yourself from the immediate, pressing situation. Consider how to solve the underlying problem.  

Dr. Nadel advises: “Frustration is frequently a reaction to our perceived helplessness in a particular situation. But we are not helpless.  When we express frustration by blaming someone else, we are missing out on an opportunity to reposition our response to that sense of helplessness.”  

Skillfully handling the trickster  

Exhibiting composure during a stressful moment, and handling challenges gracefully are impressive qualities. Dr. Nadel points out there’s much to learn: “If we see frustration as a message that we need to explore our thinking about the ‘frustrating’ issue, then we stop ‘tolerating’ frustration and utilize it to our benefit.”

These are components of emotional intelligence that show that you understand your feelings and that you know how to manage them. Compare that with the alternative.

Decide to behave in the way that benefits you, taking the opportunity it offers to hone your self-control. Teach yourself how to do so by recognizing the rewards it gives you versus the extra work it leaves you with to behave in an emotionally chaotic way.  

Dr. Nadel explains: “Every state contains information.  Uncomfortable states contain a lot of powerful information about how we look at things.  I see frustration as an opportunity to think critically and to change models of belief and behavior that are not working for us. It’s a good thing if we work with it.”

Take the opportunity. You’re in control, not the trickster.   

 

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